Understanding Mindset

We choose what we pay attention to – that person or object or feeling on which we set our minds. I can look at the person I’m having lunch with or take in the hockey game on the big screen behind their head. You can listen to what your friend is saying or think about what you’re going to take out of the freezer for dinner. And each of us can attend to either our independent inclinations or the guiding of the Spirit. We know about wavering between hockey and our lunch companion; we understand the conflict between friend and freezer, but what does it mean to set our minds on the Spirit? The question is of utmost importance, because this mindset shapes the entire tone of our lives.

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Mind Reading

Projection
Sometimes we take the events going on inside our own heads and assume they’re also going on in the outside world. Naturally we then respond to “what’s going on”…even though it isn’t actually happening. That’s projection. For example, let’s say I’m angry. When we talk, if I project, I assume you’re the one who’s angry and start defending myself against “your” anger (the anger that never existed in the first place).

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Sin Is a Mixture

Many years ago I met with a married woman who was deeply in love – but not with her husband. Torn between that love and her guilt, she had reached the end of her rope.

She hadn’t stopped her affair for a very good reason. She hated the sin, but (and this is what kept her involved in it) she thought that giving up her sin meant giving up her longing to be cherished. She really did hate the sin. She just couldn’t figure out how to stop it without this deep sense of losing something that shouldn’t be lost.

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