Marriage: The Ripe Fruit of Learning to Love
Learning to love took us many married years. But now? Now we get to savor the ripe fruit of that learning.
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Attunement, Awareness, and Jazz
Attunement is the ability to be aware of our surroundings and respond helpfully. How do we practice this skill? Start by paying more attention to input than to output.
Read moreSide-By-Side: Yokes, Comfort and Choices
When two are “yoked,” each feels every move of the other. Yokes well-picture the “oneness” found in both human and spiritual marriage.
Read moreA Lifetime Together
My husband and I have celebrated a lot of anniversaries. I wouldn’t exactly call the two of us old … I prefer the word “mature.” Mature fits. All these married years have brought a degree of maturity. When we speak we do so from considerable experience. I’d like to share with you some important things we’ve learned over the years, both about our intimate relationship and about the faithful commitment that supports its beauty. Please, take these words deep into your heart….
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Projection
Sometimes we take the events going on inside our own heads and assume they’re also going on in the outside world. Naturally we then respond to “what’s going on”…even though it isn’t actually happening. That’s projection. For example, let’s say I’m angry. When we talk, if I project, I assume you’re the one who’s angry and start defending myself against “your” anger (the anger that never existed in the first place).
The Biblical Meaning of Helper
What’s the biblical meaning of helper? This “do-it-yourself” word study reveals that when God says “helper” He’s referring to expertise offered in love.
Read moreDifferences Stir Passion
My husband and I process reality very differently. Does he suffer from deficits (that I should fix), or did God intend that our differences stir passion?
God and I (and my husband and I) are intimates yet exquisitely different. In both relationships our differences make my heart quiver with joy.
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